Fem Power

It’s true that there is nothing that will drive a man happily into sub space like being dominated by a woman he loves. (The fact of the matter is there are few limits to how far a dominant wife can push and control her husband if she handles him properly.) I see nothing wrong with this—it’s as it should be. And when FemDom reaches full stride that’s how it WILL be.

BUT the transition from traditional vanilla doesn’t happen over night.

In the beginning, it’s a mistake for a man to expect his submission will be defined by the level of dominance the woman is initially willing to bring into the relationship. As Paul learned below, a man’s sense of submission needs to be realized from within, without depending on a dominant woman to define it for him. The thing is, and take it from me, dominating a man is a lot of responsibility and a lot of work too!

This is why when a man depends solely on a woman’s dominance to satisfy his need to submit, the FemDom dynamic probably isn’t gonna work effectively. As you’ll read below, Paul learned that becoming an empowered submissive—instead of a needy one—resulted in empowering his wife to more fully embrace her female authority. So you see, even though a male’s role is to follow, support and submit to the female, he can actually help “lead” the relationship into being a FemDom relationship that satisfies both.

This isn’t the same as “stealth submission,” where the man knocks himself out while the woman knows nothing of what’s going on in his head. This is frustrating for a man and difficult for many to sustain. But in a situation where the woman is in the loop and is at least marginally agreeable, the outcome, as in Paul’s case, can be very different. One feeds the other. The more the male empowers himself through self-actualization of his submissive nature, the more it frees the woman to explore her authority and become an empowered dominant woman. The more empowered she becomes, the more it validates and drives the male’s sense of submission to new highs—or should I say ‘lows.’  Soon the relationship is …..

 

Have a seat!

So you found My Blog, please step inside. Ladies please take a seat; subs/slaves please take the appropriate position on the floor; Switches and Fetishist Kinksters feel free to leave and don't let the dungeon door hit you on the way out!. Now I think that covers everybody, hope you’re all sitting comfortably or not? First some house cleaning!

Who Am I - self confident, charismatic, comfortable with My sexuality and My choices. I am capable of making a decision, and knowing that being a Dominant Female does not define My character - instead adds to it. I am a  beautiful creature on the inside  who knows there is strength in being capable of making decisions, asserting desires, and showing My aggressiveness in the right context; Any woman can spread her legs and think she has control of the situation, but does she really? Many Women on this site thinks spreading their legs, showing their clits or pussy shots with every man who comes along makes them dominant - it makes them stupid. We as Women have worked hard to over come the stigma men have about Women, Women being their fuck toy, cock suckers or swing partner. Yes I do believe everyone has a right to express their sexuality and sexual preferences, but with that said, do not assume all Women are like that! I demand respect, I will deny you sexual pleasure, Me being your fuck partner is not going to happen and I will never suck your cock.  I am strict, also structured, loving, caring, nourishing and controlling!

Let Me make this clear, I do not hate men, nor hold a grudge against men in general! I do have a very low tolerance for ill-manner fools!

To Me BDSM is NOT about sex. I am not frigid, mental stimulation and the Power I Hold As a Woman is far more stimulating than ever being fucked, so why bother faking it? It is about power and control, the total power exchange, which is non consensual given and taken. While a lot of it can be sexual to some, it is not the driving force. BDSM is short for bondage and discipline (BD), dominance and submission (D/s), sadism and masochism (SM). I am a loving sadist, it turns Me on in so many ways; mentally it is sexually/sensually stimulating, intellectually it stimulates my erotic brain (the greatest sex organ there is), emotionally it is what ties a Dominant and a submissive together ! Nothing gives Me more pleasure than the reaction I get from My submissive partner and to know I am in control of that reaction! 

So you married guys living with your wives, and looking for something on the side, move on, or send Her to Me to train, I'll teach Her how to take control of your sorry ass! I am not a slut , pro-domme, or the prostitute you think many on this site are! I am the real deal and not looking for one night stands, being the other Woman, a fin-dummie or your entertainment online or in person! Just MOVE ON!!! And if we do ever meet, on the first meet, do not expect a session, it is a process! I hate the word session by the way! Do not think I am going to dress in a corset or leather boost on out first meet as well! I will most likely dress very casual and simple, why? because I can...I am not your clown!

I am a firm believer in the emasculation, feminization and enslavement of the male species! 

Stay tune for more.....I have just started!

Ms Shirley